*Wrote this a while ago, thought I'd still share it with you guys!*
This topic happened upon me while driving in my car listening to "Cupid's Chokehold" by the Gym Class Heros; yes it is random, but hang in there with me. It was the lyric in the song that said "she's even got her very own ringtone", and it made me laugh. It made me remember how in middle school and yeah, even high school; it was imperative that if you were in a relationship you had to have a ringtone for each other. Your boyfriend was a jerk if he didn't have one special for you.
Love is a term that grows with us as we age
is a term that grows with us as we age and its definition changes as
well. I think we all figure that out and by a certain point we know what
love is to us and how it changes us. What we don't normally think about
is the ways in which we define it. Not in words but in actions. The
difference between that when we are younger and now when we are adults
we are teenagers your significant other had to do certain things to
prove they " loved" you. It starts from such a young age too. When
you’re in the earlier grades in school it is all about actually hanging
out with each other at recess or sitting next to each other at lunch but
then all of a sudden you hit middle school and it changes. Now it is
well you have to hold hands every single second you’re together, or he
must walk you to your locker and then to class and subsequently be late
to every single one of his classes.
think what has made it worse is social media. Now, a relationship isn’t
official unless it is posted on Facebook for everyone in your list of
friends to see. Like if it isn’t on Facebook, then it couldn’t possibly
be true. That is truly irritating, that we must rely on a website to
dictate how authentic a relationship is. Then of course, if you’re in a
relationship you must write on each others walls all the time
professing your love to each other. Another good one thanks to social media is the constant phone calls. You had to have one before school, one after school, and one at bedtime and that is just the bare minimum. Then of course you spend hours and hours on the phone talking about absolutely nothing, or not talking at all...come on now, admit it, you are guilty of it right?
my favorite is when in middle school or high school even, two people
would start dating and three days later start saying “I love you”. Or
the fact that we felt the need to say it every single time we said
suppose what I’m getting at is, when we are younger we have no idea
about how to properly express love. We are under the impression that it
must be said as many times as possible, as if your boyfriend/girlfriend
was going to forget in the hour long class that separates you.
is one of those moments I can say I’m grateful I’m an adult now. I’ve
been in “love” and I’ve been in real love. I know the difference and
when you find someone you truly have fallen in love with there is no
need to constantly express it. If you know they love you back then it is
unspoken. You can just look at each other and know, there is no reason
to flaunt it to the world, since honestly, it is none of their business.
is probably one of the scariest things in the world to deal with, and
yes as cliche as that sounds, I speak the truth. You go into a
relationship not expecting anything and as time goes on it changes. You
feel this weight in your chest and it makes you speechless, because you
realize that your heart is opening up to this other person. Which then
in fact makes you the most vulnerable you’ve ever felt, and you are hit
with this intense fear of the idea that they may not love you back or as
much as you love them.
you take that leap though, I can’t say it isn’t worth it. We are young
for a reason, to let ourselves go through our stupid phase and get out
what we think we know. Growing up is just us redefining what we think.